Do you suffer from Superwoman Syndrome! We are all still trying to balance work with out personal life, make time for ourselves, make time for your partner or girlfriends, deal with the resonsibilities of running a household and the list goes on! You may find it difficult to juggle so many responsibilities, and feel that you’re falling short all the time, which in turn can lead to unhappiness and even ill healthSo how do we take back control and stop ourselves from coming up “short” all the time? Here are a few tips to help you stay sane and avoid these negative feelings:
Avoid Superwoman Syndrome – There’s a negative trend in our society for women to be “superwomen” – you know, the do it all types who juggle a thriving business or career with baking cookies, being active in charities, being active on the school PTA AND still have time to work out and look great. You may be surprised to hear the word “negative” when the description listed sounds so positive, but the reality is that people weren’t really cut out to handle so much at any one time.
Many women are stressed and overworked as a result. They end up feeling depressed when they can’t meet an ideal which quite frankly set them up for failure in the first place. Wouldn’t it be nice to see a different trend? One where women are cut a bit of slack and not expected to achieve this image of “perfection” at all times.
You can start this trend within yourself. Give yourself a break and realize your situation is unique to you. Don’t compare yourself to your girlfriend’s or the people next door – no one is the same. Do the best with what you’ve got and stamp out the guilt. Guilt used inappropriately is a negative emotion that stops us from moving forward by keeping us cemented in the past.
Say NO – No is not a dirty word; in fact, it’s a word that can help you stay sane and feeling more human. You couldn’t possibly do it all if you tried. The more you say “no” the more empowered you’ll feel. Don’t worry about what people will think, instead prioritize what’s important to you and say no to anything that does not fit the bill.
Guilt is a dirty word – Used properly, guilt helps us to do the right thing and be productive, rule-following members of society. But if you don’t have a sociopath issue to deal with then over-use of guilt becomes a negative emotion. And many of us, particularly women, get too caught up in the guilt trap.�
Although some guilt does come as standard with the package of being a woman, avoid feeling too guilty at all times. You’re juggling a lot of balls which means you’re going to drop some once in a while; don’t feel guilty and instead see this as a fact of life – what goes up must come down. If you juggle too much, some things will come thumping down once in a while.
Don’t compare – This is one of the worst things you can do. We don’t really know what goes on behind the closed doors of anyone’s life. The “perfect” woman who seems to breezily get through her days while doing it all, may in reality be struggling or having a really hard time keeping up. Whatever the case, comparison only leads to feeling inadequate – particularly when we compare ourselves to the unrealistic.
Instead, be happy with yourself and don’t worry about anything else going on around you. Perhaps Jane can do it all, great for her, but you’d prefer to only do ten things instead of twenty. It doesn’t really matter who does what; what matters most is that you don’t compare yourself to anyone else because no two situations are ever the same. And who knows, Jane may have a gardener or part-time nanny you’re unaware of.
Juggling a family, being an entrepreneur or a thriving career isn’t easy, but these strategies can help you overcome the feelings of having to do it all and help you stay sane in the process. These are things that emotionally you can do right now to change your situation. Couple these tips with good organizational skills, getting and asking for help, building a support structure around you, and having a clear routine. This will go a long, long way to helping you achieve that ever-important balance between life and work. Good luck!
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